BIG IDEA

Sex is designed by God to be about coming together unashamed and free in the context of a lifelong marriage.

MESSAGE NOTES:

WHAT: 

Wouldn’t it make sense that if God is really a perfect powerful, all knowing, all loving HEAVENLY FATHER...God would have something to say about sex.

In the world there is unavoidable pain... but when it comes to this topic specifically there is needlessly avoidable pain and God wants us to miss that pain and live in freedom!

SO WHAT:

Sex has certain predictable outcomes. Anyone who has had sex and the relationship ended, it has caused pain.

• Your heavenly Father wants to help you not experience that pain.

• Anytime a relationship ends, it’s painful... but when sex is in the mix it’s infinitely more painful.

Sex is not preference... it’s a matter of DIVINE DESIGN. It was designed by God to be about coming together unashamed and free in the context of a lifelong marriage.

NOW WHAT:

Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; 20 you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies. 1 Corinthians 6:19-20

God does not want you to live in shame or guilt. He took your sin on the cross so you can ask for forgiveness and live a full life honoring him. Here’s are two ways to do this when it comes to the topic of sex:

• Determine your story: When the time comes to talk to your potential future spouse about this topic, choose to boldly declare that you are to going to honor God with your body by waiting for marriage. Or, if you have a past, don’t return to shame or guilt, instead you could say something like “I went outside of God’s plan for my sexuality. But then I heard God’s design and plan for sex, and it clicked. From that point on, I have decided to honor God by waiting for marriage.

• Decide ahead of time, what honoring God with your body looks like:

  • Decide now that you’re not going to sleep over at his house once he goes to college.

  • Decide now we’re not going to be in the room with the door closed.

  • As you graduate and go off to college – Decide now that you’re not going to share a sleeping bag when you go camping.

  • When you’re drawn to someone and the chemistry is strong it’s hard to start deciding.

    Doing this does not mean that everything will be perfect when you get

    married, either with sex or just in general... But it is one less obstacle

    that you have to overcome.

DISCUSSION QUESTIONS:

*Optional ice breaker questions to lead with:

On a scale of 1-10, how awkward is it to talk about sex in church?

How much does it get talked about by the people around you?

Why do you think we should or should not talk about sex at church?

Q1: What do most people think GOD thinks about sex?

Q2: Read 1 Corinthians 6:12. What do you think Paul meant when he said, “I have the right to do anything, but not everything is beneficial”?

Q3: What is something you could do, but doesn’t benefit you, or isn’t good for your future?
• Eat a carton of ice cream
• Cheat on homework
• Skip class

Q4: How would you define the word “integrity?”

Q5: Don’t Miss This Question: What do you think it means to live with sexual integrity?