Sorry Not Sorry 1
Forgive as the Lord forgave you.
The more you hold on to a grudge, the more it holds on to you.
I N T R O D U C T I O N
Relationships have a list of unspoken rules.
T E N S I O N
Then there are those “sorry not sorry” moments.
And it’s in these moments—when someone crosses a line and acts so badly and is fine with it—that grudges are born.
You can technically be right, you can have the truth on your side, but it doesn’t change the fact that you’re stuck in negativity.
But Paul understood a fundamental truth about grudges: The more you hold onto a grudge, the more it holds on to you.
The only way to find freedom from a grudge is for one person to let go. And the ultimate way to release a grudge? Forgiveness.
A P P L I C AT I O N
1. Give up. 2. Let go. 3. Repeat.
L A N D I N G
Even though this feels like giving up power on your end, letting go actually empowers you.
Q1: Why is it so easy for us to hold on to a grudge?
Q2: How does holding a grudge affect YOU? How does it affect the person you’re holding the grudge against?
Q3: What are some typical grudges you hold against people at school?
Q4: From our talk today, what reasons did Paul have for holding grudges?
Q5: Have you ever tried to negatively pay someone back for holding a grudge against you? Explain why.
Q6: If we are currently holding grudges toward someone, how can we work toward letting go of those grudges this week?
Leaders—remind your students that it’s easy to give in to subtle forms of holding a grudge like eye rolling, vague social media comments, and silent treatment. Encourage them to be aware of these things this week and choose against these “typical” acts.
Next at YX
Here is something coming up to talk about in group and invite your students:
Summer Camp: Registration is now open!
J High June 23-29th * High School June 9-15th
Seniors: Senior Sessions is on its final week of Relationship IQ with Dave Wilson. Join us!
Room 105 Tuesdays at 4-5:30.